12 baby items everyone SAYS you need for your new baby, but you don’t!
Here’s my list of what things you DON’T need on your baby registry!
Everyone has opinions on all things baby: your mother, mother-in-law, best friend, best friend’s mom, all the ladies at church, the random person in the grocery store who notices you’re pregnant… they will all (very) freely share their opinions with you.
They’re trying to be kind and helpful (it helps to remind yourself of this!), but sometimes, honestly, it’s bad advice that goes against what doctors and research says now. Take in the advice, sure, but weigh it against “best practice” .
Things have changed since your grandmother had kids (we have car seats now, for example…haha). DO YOUR OWN RESEARCH, mama. There aren’t many things more important than keeping your baby safe and healthy.
Some items people recommend don’t necessarily go against “best practice”, they just aren’t necessary. Check out this list of 12 things you don’t need on your baby registry.
Let me know in the comments if I missed something, or if I really offended you because you love an item on my list! 😉 No judgement from me, mama!
Before reading “Things you don’t need on your baby registry”
Note: If you’re a mama who’s used one or more of these in the past, I am not judging you! We all do what we think is best for our babies, and what gets us through the day! I’m just here to share the things I’m learning, not to judge your parenting decisions. We are all on the same side; I am cheering you on!
1) A million “baby-holding” devices
You don’t need any of those.
Nope, not one.
I know; isn’t that crazy!? I didn’t know, either! One day, when I was newly pregnant and in the beginning stages of researching all things baby, I stumbled upon Rachel Coley’s website, CanDoKiddo.com. She is a Pediatric Occupational Therapist (based in Charlotte, NC!), who writes about baby development (baby play, baby milestones, starting solids, baby gear, etc..). She is, by far, the first resource I share with mamas. She has SO MUCH information on her website (and also on Youtube and Instagram). I’ve read through every single one of her posts, and continue to refer to her website if I need to know something about baby development. Not sponsored, y’all; I just LOVE LOVE LOVE everything she says!
What to do with a baby all day (if you don’t use baby gear)
One more thing, and then I’ll stop (for now, haha). You may be wondering what you do with a baby who doesn’t bounce around from seat to seat all day. Rachel doesn’t leave you to figure that out on your own! She has a million baby play ideas on her website and Instagram as well! She also has a recommendations of baby seats that are best for baby, if you feel you really need one.
Be looking for most posts on this; as this is something I love and could talk about forever! (And Rachel, if by some miracle you ever read this, THANK YOU and let’s PLEASE be BEST FRIENDS! 😉 )
2) Baby “nest”– (like the Dock-A-Tot or the Snuggle Me Organic)
I KNOW, I KNOW, I KNOW! I’m sorry to burst your bubble, mama, but you really don’t need one of these, either.
When I began to learn about sleep safety and baby products, I was so disheartened when I realized that there are SO MANY products marketed to mamas AS sleeping devices, that actually aren’t safe for sleep. Dock-A-Tot even says on their website that all sleep must be supervised while in the Dock-A-Tot, and they state that “the American Academy of Pediatrics has determined that the safest place for a baby to sleep during the first year of life is in a crib, bassinet or play yard in the parents’ bedroom”.
Check out these articles about the baby sleep nests and sleep safety:
What to buy instead of a Dock-A-Tot
I talk about this in my Ultimate Baby Registry Guide, but you don’t need a changing table! Just lay a changing pad on top of a dresser and you’re good to go!
4) Diaper Genie
In my opinion, these things are unsanitary and unnecessary (not to mention the refills are EXPENSIVE). When your baby has a dirty diaper, flush it down the toilet or put the soiled diaper in a grocery bag (or two…haha!) and put it in your kitchen trash can.
I will never understand why people spend hundreds of dollars on something they can get MUCH cheaper that works just as well.
Unless your pediatrician recommends it, you don’t have to have a baby sleep monitor.
Instead, follow these guidelines for safe sleep, as recommended by the American Association of Pediatrics.
You can (of course!) have your grandmother make your baby a quilt! Just don’t put it in the crib quite yet, and rather than having her make bumpers (suffocation hazard) , have her make a small pillow (for baby to use when they’re a toddler).
Expensive crib bedding isn’t a necessity. Get a couple sheets and some mattress protectors and you’re good to go!
8) Baby mittens
Baby mittens seem like a no-brainer to help keep babies’ hands warm and from scratching their faces, right?
Well, sure; mittens do those things, but you don’t need them.
Babies use their bodies to grow and learn about their new world. By covering their hands, you’re taking away the opportunity for them to feel those different sensations through their hands.
What to do instead of putting mittens on your newborn:
Instead of putting mittens on your baby, trim and file their nails.
If you’re worried about baby’s hands being blue and cold; this is considered normal and nothing to worry about. (BUT OF COURSE: talk to your doctor if you are concerned about ANYTHING and EVERYTHING in regards to your baby! AND, trust your gut!)
9) Wipes Warmer
Unless you’re cloth diapering and using cloth wipes, there’s really no need for a wipes warmer.
Babies aren’t bothered by cool wipes, and if yours seems to be you can quickly warm it up by holding it for a few seconds between your (clean) hands!
10) Baby food maker
It is now widely recognized that babies don’t have to eat purees for long (and some that do Baby Led Weaning don’t start with purees at all!). Gone are the days of shoveling food into babies’ mouths with “airplanes” for months on end.
Baby-feeding experts now advocate for teaching baby how to eat on their own from the beginning of them learning how to eat. Neither of my kids loved purees; the only time I used “baby food” was in the beginning stages of them “tasting” food (see this article for how I began solids using CanDoKiddo’s Fast Track to Solids approach).
I said all that to say, if you want to make your own baby food for as long as your baby needs it (a few months, max), just use your blender/Ninja/food processor. No special “baby food system” needed.
Carters and Old Navy, y’all. That’s where we (slash the grandmas…haha!) get all of our baby clothes. They have SO many sales, are cute, and I don’t have to spend hours upon hours perusing consignment sales (don’t get me wrong; I like consignment stores and sales. But going through clothes there- and in big crowds- is too much for me). Don’t spend loads of money on clothes babies are going to soil in a million different ways. You will stress about keeping them clean, and in my opinion, that just isn’t worth it.
We’ve also (graciously) received a lot of hand-me-downs from friends/family. This was incredibly helpful and the way to go! Ask family members or friends who have kids slightly older than yours (and are also done having babies) if they have clothes you could borrow/have/buy cheaply.
12) Baby shoes
Your baby doesn’t need any shoes until they start walking. Sure, they’re cute and can “really make an outfit”, but like I stated in the “baby mittens” section, babies learn about their world through the sensations in their body. Shoes inhibit those sensations through their feet. (I know, I know, they can be SOOO cute! Get them if you want, fashionista mama, but you don’t have to have them!).
Notes on buying baby shoes:
When you do buy shoes for your toddler, check out this post for shoe recommendations, as the guidelines are much different than when your mom and grandmother bought toddler shoes.
Final thoughts on things you DON’T need on your baby registry
Everyone will try to tell you what you need on your baby registry! They WILL say
Thanks so much for checking out this post! Let me know if you would include anything else, or even if you disagree with me. I would love to hear from you!
Lots of love,